Children grow up best when they spend time with their parents. Children need parents in their lives to talk to, set boundaries for them, and get care and love from. When parents are not involved enough in a child’s life, the child often becomes rebellious or lost. It is extremely important to know where your child is, what they are doing, and what is going on in their life.
There are two styles of parenting in which parents do not spend enough time with their child. The first style is authoritarian parenting. In this style of parenting, children are subjected to strict discipline, but do not get the feeling that they are loved or cared for. These children only communicate with their parents when the parents are disappointed or displeased. These children are often subjected to emotional or physical abuse, and grow up not respecting their parents. A child of an authoritarian household often grows up mistrustful of any rule system, like teachers and the police. These children are at risk for criminal behavior as a result.
Neglectful parenting is another parenting style in which parents do not spend time with a child. Neglected children rarely see their parents at all, typically because the parents are too busy with work to show much interest in their child’s life. These children are never asked how they are doing in school, whether they have finished their homework, or when they will be home from a friend’s house. This lack of direction and care means that a child is free to do whatever they like, and are often partially raised by their friend group.
Children who do not have parents spending time with them pick up behaviors and attitudes more from other children than their parents. This is often how kids get into drugs and alcohol as teenagers. Neglected children and children from authoritarian households will often gather at the home of a child whose parents are not home and participate in illegal activities. Because the parents do not show an interest in the child’s life, the signs of this behavior are often not caught until it is too late.
Children whose parents are attentive, however, feel enough of a connection with their parents to tell them what is happening in their life. This is a habit that needs to be formed early, so that the children will still communicate in high school and college, when their problems are more serious. Spending time with a child and hearing about their day means that you can keep tabs on how they are developing, and what they are up to when they are out of the house.
Parents must spend time with their children. Children of authoritative and neglectful households will not tell their parents when they are in trouble, which often leads to illegal activity like drugs and underage drinking. This is why it is important to spend time with your child from an early age so that they are comfortable sharing with you.